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One thing I feel happens to thankfully me and most people as they age is the ability to handle criticism. Usually the older you get, the less sensitive to criticism you become. The one thing that still admittedly bugs me is when good intentions are misunderstood. (Let's say for example you hold the door for an older woman wanting to be kind and helpful, and instead of saying thanks she yells that she's not that old and can get the door herself, that type of stuff).

This site's criticisms for the most part are from people like the fugitive's relatives or stuff like that and you can brush it off like "yeah sure pal, your relative who was caught on camera shooting the victim isn't guilty and how dare we profile them". But there have been a few times where one unique aspect I should have known could happen but wasn't quite prepared for when I started this site is when the criticism comes from a victim's loved one. For the most part, it is an error or mistake on my part, a typo or factual error and the criticism is completely fair and I correct it. But a couple of years ago, a victim's loved one critiqued on social media the way we covered a story (I won't say if it was a fugitive or unsolved case to not give it away to much). This was despite the fact everyone else including much larger media and publications covered the story the same way we did, and I didn't think I said anything factually wrong. Still, I decided to be the bigger man, and edited the story to tell it to the way they wanted it to be told.

Several years later, and much larger media continues to cover the story in the way this person had a problem with the way we did it, yet oddly we're the only media that's ever been called out. Heck, I recall an interview with a journalist covering the case where I heard them say something so much more offensive than anything we've ever said and yet they were never called out. It's a catch-22 as I admittedly did get kind of pissed off, but on the other hand I don't want to be petty, I can't imagine what that person is going through, and not to mention I am sure their loved one's killer will strike again if they haven't already. They're still a victim or victim's loved one at the end of the day. (John Walsh has always said he's not the victim, Adam was, so I want to be careful in the way I say that). So I bit my tongue and continue to bite my tongue, but I will admit this is the one of the rare critiques I still ruminate about lol.


So yeah for the most part I can handle criticism. But the one exception where my feelings are admittedly hurt is when a victim's loved one doesn't realize this site is/was only trying to help.

Not sure where I'm going with this but just I saw the criticism of us done by someone else yet again and wanted to make a not sure if this would count as a rant, but just get this off my chest.